she woke up sad and when i asked her why, she just said she wants a new toy. she noted that i have not bought her a new toy for quite sometime. so i told her i will buy her a cheap toy when we go to the mall and she insisted we go right there and then. she was close to crying so there was a lot of explaining to do...
mama: we cannot go to the mall yet because mama doesn't have money now.
xia: why you don't have money mama?
mama: remember mama has to buy you new uniforms, new shoes, new bags, baon and has to pay for your big school. mama would want to give you everything you want if only mama has money.
she was already crying while listening to me and started to hug me. and then another question:
xia: how can you have money again mama? you go to work?
mama: yes, mama has to work. i told you already right that mama is in the office everyday so i can buy milk (and i enumerated again the things i buy for her)...
in between sobs, she said:
xia: mama, please work a lot harder so you can buy me toy ok?
gusto kong matawa sa hirit ng anak ko promise!!! i did not see it coming, i swear... ang clever lang!!! 😆😈😆
but i hope that she was able to understand that she doesn't always get what she wants and that she needs to work hard or in this case her mama has to work hard so she gets what she wants.
i am just blessed to have a daughter who doesn't insist - as long as you have a satisfactory explanation about your decision or point. she doesn't get it when you say "because you need to do it" or "because that's what i want"... she's smart enough to know that it's not the right answer and would not accept it until she gets to the bottom of things. i think this was what she acquired from her 2yrs montessori schooling where kids were trained to ask, ask and ask again until they get an acceptable answer. so in any conversation i have with her, i don't take shortcuts! i make sure i give her a complete answer at once 😉😉😉
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